As a human, boundaries are necessary for survival and safety. We might get hurt if we don’t establish healthy boundaries around ourselves.
And that is indeed the case, as most individuals today don’t have proper boundaries or set of guidelines according to which they go through their lives. Some of us have poor boundaries that let people push over us in their bid to achieve something.
Having boundaries is necessary because it allows us to keep a clear track of our relationships. Without such boundaries, things around us will become highly confused and complicated- which would then lead to all sorts of problems.
In our lives, we would come across several relationship dynamics which would make us stop and wonder if what is going on is actually fair. For example, boundaries become quite important when in a workplace.
However much an employer might try to be lenient and friendly, the moment they get too friendly with their employees, things change.
If a boss is too friendly with one of his employees, they might get displeased with them for something that happened outside the workplace- but the consequences might result in expulsion from the company. Any relationship where a person in power has a very familiar relationship with a person in a subordinate position is a violation and abuse of said power.
When things are going well, it is sunshine and daisies. But the subordinate individual would never be able to express themselves completely on account of being too close to the person in power.
Healthy Boundaries Are The Foundations Of Healthy Relationships
As we come to the third decade of the 21st century, we can see how social media has blurred most boundaries that we have created around ourselves. People are too willing to share their personal information with literal strangers on the internet- something that can lead to severe consequences.
This then encourages others to do the same as well- resulting in people ignoring boundaries- others and their own. In order to have healthy and professional relationships, we will need to have healthy boundaries. While it is not complicated at all, it might ask us to take harsher steps.
Most of us have inferior concepts of boundaries as we have often encountered boundary violations as a child. This could be experiencing or witnessing some form of abuse. This could also be a person in power doing something inappropriate with a child- something that makes them overwhelmed and unable to properly deal with that emotion.
Despite our boundaries being violated as a child, it shouldn’t stop us from healing from that damage as adults. There are certain situations in adult life where we would be given opportunities to grow as humans. One of them would involve not giving or revealing intimate information about ourselves on the internet.
You could also draw your line in the sand by not engaging in any form of intimate activity with someone until you have a modicum of respect between both of you- and when you feel comfortable and safe with them.
Broken boundaries get healed- but it takes time, and one might have to deal with certain harsh situations that will make us strong enough to deal with future troubles.
Some of us don’t have proper boundaries around us because we are too willing to indulge others for their needs. We have this idea that our worth depends on how we interact with others. Remember, worth comes from self-respect.
If you don’t love yourself or can’t feel compassion for who you are as a human, your boundaries will forever be broken. Try to understand yourself and realize who you are as a human. This will allow you to create good boundaries along the way- something that will keep you safe and happy.
Now, you can follow Conscious Reminder on Facebook & Instagram!
∼If you like our article, give Conscious Reminder a thumbs up, and help us spread LOVE & LIGHT!∼
