When two people are truly in love with each other, they can’t help but develop into better people. This has to be a kind of love that comes without any ulterior motives.
People who really care for each other don’t set conditions. They are able to take their partner for their real selves—flaws and all—for the rest of their lives. They cannot help but love each other’s imperfections.
We’ve all been guilty of selfish love where we’ve fallen for another person, or rather who we thought that person could be if they wanted to. In reality, we’ve just made up a perfect person in our heads and projected that on someone else.
It is not right to think that we can gain enough control over a person to smooth away their imperfections. It is a hypocritical thought when we ourselves are so flawed.
Although we are all in pursuit of the ideal partner, it is also important to consider whether we are simply too apprehensive to develop feelings for another individual and their authentic self.
So rather than trying to figure out what needs to be changed about your lover, just let yourself fall in love. You’ll realize that as the days go by, both of you change with each other’s help.
Like charity, this change has to begin at home. You can only expect to receive the kind of love that you give.
When you love each other unconditionally, that in itself will inspire both of you to become the best version of yourselves. You will want to be the kind of person you feel your lover deserves.
You both know that you have each other’s backs at all times. You never force each other to be anything but who you are. All the change will come from within.
More often than not, we don’t find this kind of love. But you can begin your search by understanding that you need to start with yourself.
Accept yourself for who you are and understand that you too deserve this kind of love.
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Loving someone unconditionally does not give them the “right” to be abusive, unfaithful, etc.