There are no coincidences.
If something bad had happened, it must have been for a reason.
Bad things are just part of the process, part of life and they will pass. Nothing is permanent.
It is important to have, or at least to try to develop the ability to detach from the moment in which something bad happened.
Everything we go through is a lesson. It happened because there was something we needed to learn… to correct… to improve…
It might have also happened because there was another opportunity waiting for you to take it, exactly as the saying ‘When one door closes, another opens’ explains it.
In the situation, it is difficult to see; it is difficult to remind yourself that there’s a reason why everything turned out the way it did.
But – the one comforting thing about this is the realization that time is our biggest allay. It gives us the chance to grow up and improve; it gives us the opportunity to develop the much needed skill of DETACHMENT.
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Not everything. I don’t buy this harmful process of thought. True victims, abused children, rape victims, trafficked sex spaces…..don’t need these evil acts thrust upon them to LEARN something. It’s evil. And evil perpetrated on an innocent can cause permanent damage. It’s falsehoods as the words on this post that simply causes the victim to suffer in silence and pain even longer. It doesn’t make them better. It either makes them survive or die. And survival is a life long job. It’s not overcome. It’s walked through. It’s more learning what the truth is, and giving the lies and blame back to the evil bastardized that carved a piece out of us, only to leave scars. Trite words. I think your page needs to be a bit more trauma informed.
You need to watch The Shack!
I both agree and disagree with Jake’s comment. First I will agree on the issue of not all things happen simply because it’s a lesson we need to learn. No one asks for or deserves to go though any form of abuse or be subject to any acts of evil. The reason evil acts happen to innocent people is because there are vile, evil thinking people in this world and I agree it’s naive to dismiss that fact. However, I believe he is putting too much emphases on the depth of this post. The post is simply addressing the normal day to day situations we are faced with, not extreme circumstances, and to call it a “harmful process of thought” is way over the top. This post is neither harmful nor does if have the power to cause anyone to suffer in silence. The absolute statement he gave “It’s not overcome” is the false one too! Millions of people who have suffered as “True Victim…” have overcome the violent acts perpetrated upon them and actually placed a higher meaning or reason to the act by helping other victims and/or finding ways to stop it from happening to others. They didn’t just survive or die. I’ll close with this last thought we may have pieces carved out of us and the process of healing will leave scars, but the very nature of scars can ether restrict us or it can become a tougher part of us.