by Conscious Reminder
There are people who are true master manipulators, meaning that most of the time, we are not going to realize when we are emotionally cheated.
Moreover, if we are together with a person who is manipulative, we may also be the last person that will realize that.
Manipulative people have their ways of constantly playing and acting the victim, in that way making us feel guilty, leading us to believe that they have our best interests at their hearts, while the truth is that they are pushing us towards doing something that will benefit them.
These are the five most common signs of manipulation in a relationship:
They are going to make us feel guilty because we spend some time with our friends.
When such people are able to convince us actually to feel guilty for our action, we are more probably going to do everything they say. Oftentimes, controlling partners isolate us from our friends in subtle ways.
Maybe our partner will make a face showing displeasure whenever we plan to spend time with our friends unless we don’t accept their invitations anymore so that we can spare ourselves the stress. Also, they may even critically comment on our friends unless we start believing that they are probably true.
Moreover, they may start making fun and criticizing our hobby unless we slowly begin giving that hobby up. Such behavior may take several different forms; however, it will always push towards one goal, which is minimizing or even ending our relationship with other people unless we feel that our partner is actually the only one that we have.
They become needy when it is convenient.
Convenient neediness simply happens when the person that manipulates wants to utilize that neediness as the way to escape from something. But, such kind of behavior is quite easy to notice, which means that when we continually keep noticing it in our relationship, we should end that relationship soon.
They will make us question our own sanity.
In fact, this is another common manipulation method, which is also called gaslighting. Usually, it is an obvious method when we search for and pay attention to the signs. For example, our partner will make us question our judgment, saying that they have never made some promise to us, although we remember he or she did.
When our partner does this for some time, we are going to feel like we cannot trust our own head, so that we start trusting him or her entirely. We are going to feel like we need our partner night and day to feel good and sane, as we are probably losing it.
Emotional blackmail
We can say that this manipulation type is probably the worst one. Disguised as care and love, emotional blackmailing is going to make us feel continually chained to our sense of compassion.
When we tell someone, “I’ll probably end myself if you leave,” they will start having some thoughts of guilt, and they will not end the relationship because of pity. Moreover, saying something like “If you really loved me you would…” will also qualify our partners as blackmailers.
When a person really loves us, he or she will never think about making excuses using love, in order to get us into doing something.
They distrust us.
Even the couples that love each other the most are permitted to have privacy. And, those partners who deny acknowledging this by simply claiming that the people that really love and care about one another should not keep their social media or emails private – are not romantic, but they are controlling.
Our partner does not have the total right to check our emails continually, texts, or also to know our passwords online only because he or she is paranoid about us cheating on them, and because he or she believes that couples should not have secrets.
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