The Darker Side Of Empaths That Is Rarely Explored

by Conscious Reminder

“Empathy is the most mysterious transaction that the human soul can have, and it’s accessible to all of us, but we have to give ourselves the opportunity to identify, to plunge ourselves in a story where we see the world from the bottom up or through another’s eyes or heart.”

– Sue Monk Kidd

Empaths are affected by the energies of other people. With an innate ability to feel and perceive the emotions of others, they are highly sensitive, sometimes to an extreme. Being an empath can cause someone to be naturally giving, spiritually-attuned, and an excellent listener. But it can also cause someone to feel overwhelmed, constantly fatigued, saddened, and lost. The dark sides of being an empath are rarely seen, but they’re important to understand, especially if you are in a relationship with an empath.

The issue of Abandonment: An unfortunate conclusion is that often the mood swings can be so erratic that others, unable to cope, simply flee. The empath is then left feeling abandoned. If this happens in the midst of the mood swings the Empath will probably remember little. The Empath, once the emotions from others clears, is suddenly alone without understanding why. Therefore it can be incredibly detrimental to their emotional health and self esteem. The empath could never abandon someone in need. Therefore they will blame themselves for others leaving them. This makes their ability to express personal emotion even more unlikely.

The spiritual aspect of being an Empath: Vivid and Lucid dreaming is usually common with empaths. Having highly vivid and detailed dreams they will often spend a considerable amount of time trying to interpret these. Empaths feel, not necessarily knowing why, that dreams are a reflection or a link to their current and present emotional state. Therefore not a mere jumble of irrelevant and meaningless images. As such as well as sleep time dreamers most empaths are vivid and detailed daydreamers. If the present moment in time is not stimulating or of interest to the empath they will find themselves detached and lost in daydreams. If an interesting thought or concept enters the empaths mind they can spend large amounts of time exploring this in a daydream state. For others this may appear to be detachment but in reality the empath is far off, in their own world, exploring the thought and living it as if in reality itself.

To love or not to: Just like everyone else, an empath dreams of falling love. The dark side stems from the fact that even if they do fall in love, they can never do so entirely. They aren’t capable of giving absolutely every ounce of their heart to someone else. If they did, the intensity of the passion may become too much to handle. Instead, they always keep a small part of themselves hidden away from the rest of the world. They constantly keep a guard up because it’s necessary, even when they desperately want to let it down.