Parting Ways and Letting Go of Friends After Your Awakening

by Conscious Reminder

Awakening!

Oh, what a difficult time it was.

I think it was more difficult because I didn’t have anyone to share it with.

Yes, I didn’t.

There is not even one person to reach out to.

I look back at that time of my life and often think about how even the people I knew from my childhood didn’t understand me. But why did this happen?

I think there are many reasons, and I came to know about most of these reasons when I saw someone close to me going through an awakening recently.

The first reason is that the experience of awakening differs greatly among individuals. Everyone who goes through awakening goes through their own kind of awakening. Therefore, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with individuals going through this process. Perhaps this is why those around me struggled to understand me, as they were unsure of how to do so!

The second reason is that, as we go through that process, we are embarking on a journey that most people around us are not. So, this journey is, by its very nature, alone and isolated, and we have to go through it alone and come out of it.

The third reason is that people around you may not be very understanding or empathetic of the experience that you are going through. I believe that it can be challenging to be around someone who is experiencing awakening, leading others to opt for a simpler solution.

But the biggest issue is when your loved ones and friends don’t understand you. During my awakening, I went through a horrible experience with my friends because I felt that they were judging me and not making any attempt to understand me at all! This was hurtful to me because I was going through a lot of things that I wanted to share with them, but they did not want to hear them and didn’t even try to hear them. This is when I realized I would probably have to let go of my friendships.

I did, and I was happy.

You know why I was happy?

I think it was because I let go of my expectations and desire to be heard. I realized that this is my own journey, and these are my own challenges that I have to sort out on my own, and no one is going to help me out except myself.

But recently, I realized one more thing.

This happened because I saw someone close to me go through the process of awakening. And she had it perfectly “normal.”.

I was stunned, but then I asked her about it, and she told me that she had it perfectly normal because she didn’t even try to tell the people around her about what she was going through. People around her observed that she was changing and something different was happening to her, but when they questioned it, she never addressed the inquiries. Instead, she went through her awakening peacefully, alone, and most importantly, UNLIKE ME, with all her friends intact.

So, it is going to be different for all of us, but the journey is better when you have people around you. They may not be able to help you, guide you, or advise you, but sometimes their presence is just as good.