by Marion Selista,
Contributing Author, Conscious Reminder
Every person is unique and has something to offer the world. Being authentic means embracing who you are and accepting your uniqueness.
However, being the real you is a challenge to most people because they either don’t know how to connect with their true self or how to unleash it. You are always trying to please others, and live up to society’s expectations, forgetting yourself.
When you finally make yourself a priority, that’s when your life starts. You honor yourself by unleashing your true self. You can now say NO to things and people that do not serve you.
Here’s how you can unleash your true authentic self by using the below 15 key ways.
1. Hello, it is you
Being real starts with discovering who you are deep at the core; what you stand for; your strengths and weaknesses; your passion; and what makes you happy. Knowing yourself will make you happy and experience less inner conflict thus make better decisions. You can also resist social pressure and understand others which makes you a better individual.
2. Self-acceptance
What you think of yourself is shaped over the years by both positive and negative experiences. You will be on the path to self-acceptance when you start restructuring the way you view yourself. You must learn to admit your flaws, and accept what you can’t change. Always set small goals every day, never give up and surround yourself with positivity.
3. Reframe your life according to your principles
The expectations placed on you by society are challenging to live up to. Reframe your life by creating rules for yourself that match your values. Focus on self-care and things that bring the best in you. You will no longer have to follow what everyone expects and can take charge of your life.
4. Meditate
Meditation is a very effective method of unleashing your true self. It draws you into a place deep within yourself for self-reflection and awareness hence giving you a push in the right direction. Daily meditation can result in a rewiring of your brain allowing the decreasing stress and tension.
5. Follow your bliss
You get increased happiness and satisfaction when you do what makes you happy. Doing what you love gives you a sense of purpose and belonging, clear objectivity and self-awareness. Identify what you are genuinely passionate about and give yourself to it thus unleash your true self.
6. Find your purpose
You find your place in life when you identify the reasons for your actions and set meaningful goals. It keeps you motivated throughout your life and you remain focused on meeting them.
7. Don’t look for external approval
Seeking external validation is a burden and affects your decisions in your life. Stop letting the outside world dictate your opinions or actions. Your dreams don’t have to be acceptable to everyone. You will be happier living by your beliefs.
8. Practice gratitude
Being a grateful person has numerous benefits; it makes your life easier, happier, and healthier both physically and psychologically. You look at life with a positive attitude. You can maintain excellent relationships with others. Practice it through; letters of appreciation when someone does a good thing for you; sharing with family everything you are grateful for during meals; Writing on paper what you are thankful for and putting it in a jar; keep a journal of things you are thankful for and not taking what you have for granted.
9. Be present
You embrace the real you when you start living in the present and avoid obsessing about the past. Enjoy every moment.
10. Compare yourself to you only
Comparing yourself to others only results in evaluating and rating yourself by chasing symbols of status and success. Unlock your authentic self by accepting yourself the way you are and measuring yourself by your standards.
11. Become your best self
Master these three elements that make you the best you can be;
Connectedness – appreciate what you have now by showing love for what you have and don’t take anything for granted.
Calm – observe your thoughts as they pass through your mind by staying calm.
Motivation – understanding the reason you do the things you do will spur you to continue striving to accomplish your objective.
12. Love
People often ridicule and give you a strange look when you are authentic. Self-love entails accepting and expressing your true self. It involves loving yourself and living life to the fullest just the way you are. You can’t give love if you don’t love yourself first.
13. Trust
Follow your wisdom and gut instead of looking externally for inner peace. Avoid seeking others’ opinions and get guidance from within yourself. Honor your emotions instead of hiding them thus unleashing the real you.
14. Authenticity
If you can’t be yourself, who else can you be? Connect with your inner self. It involves letting go of the false identity of who you think you should be and instead allowing the real you to emerge.
15. Affirmation
Affirmations are very easy and powerful to use. They train your mind through repetition and positive encouragement to connect to yourself. It entails thinking good thoughts, expressing who you are, taking actions to meet your needs and doing what you want. It builds self-esteem and unleashes your true self.
Final words
Learning to unleash your true authentic self is not an easy task- though it is a rewarding challenge. You discover yourself; identify your true passions; let go of past mistakes and accept yourself. You break free from crippling self-doubts and love yourself just the way you are. Being the real you helps you find your purpose, build your self-esteem; and brings you happiness in life.
About the Author: Marion Selista is a freelance writer & a blogger, who specializes in life coaching for professional and personal empowerment. She is keen on writing about self-development, leadership, lifestyle and work-life balance. Her mission is to motivate and enlight people to live a successful and fulfilling life. Currently blogging for Smart Pill Wiki resource.
Sources:
https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/297635
https://medium.com/productivity-revolution/7-ways-to-unleash-your-true-self-505dbad23731
https://www.psychalive.org/finding-yourself/
https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2014/11/23/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-gratitude-that-will-motivate-you-to-give-thanks-year-round/#223fd399183c
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/finding-love/201105/how-love-yourself-first
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