by Leda De Zwaan
On family karma, energetic ties and your family being your biggest trigger and your biggest teacher.
Carrier of Family Karma
My whole life I have been occupied with these themes. When I was a little girl, I started my quest for karma and the ‘burden’ I took on, even though I knew it not to be mine. I knew it through my different view on the world, my other way of seeing things, my different lifestyle. I always had strong premonitions regarding ancestors I never met, or I fell ill an inexplicably high number of times and through these times I ‘knew’ I was carrying and transforming family karma.
What is family karma?
Family karma is the karma of your ancestral bloodline, from your parents towards you. Say your father was the most spiritually developed within his family and he had five brothers and sisters: he would be the carrier of ‘energetic blockages’ in the karmic family line. He is carrying this burden from when he was born and will continue to do so his whole life, unless he releases it. Your mother also is the most spiritually attuned of her brothers and sisters. Her mother also was the most burdened of her family, as was her great grandmother.
When you – a highly sensitive and spiritual soul – are born out of two spiritually heavily burdened parents, you are carrying a doubly high mountain of karma in your karmic family line. This line can also be cursed, like when you have family lines going back to Indonesia, Africa, Surinam or the Antilles. Most curses stem from the catholic faith though. They demonized anything that did not fit their regime. The druids, witches and old animist religions took a grave beating. Chances are you, as a spiritually developed soul, lived this. In the old days (and also today) a curse was put on a family over nothing. These practices were often handled very professionally. These curses were put on the entire family, as part of your blueprint, so you take it with you every time you incarnate on this earth. During sessions with my clients I witnessed curses that stemmed from ancient Egypt, where some priestesses were so jealous of others’ gifts they cursed them for an eternity. The funny thing is, that the ones who cursed you out of jealousy, could be your parents right NOW because you have to learn to handle your biggest enemies and to set this energy free. It could even be you were murdered many lifetimes by the souls who are now your parents. It happens a lot in the new energy that we have to set things straight from former lifetimes. You can receive family members that used to be your worst enemy in former lifetimes to release old karma. It often requires you to transform this karma whilst being firmly rooted in love. It asks you to stay true to yourself and become stronger and more powerful. Show you are inviolable now.
A Burden of lifetimes
Family patterns can exist which are passed on from grandmother to mother to you. For example: grandma’s theme was being too mild. She always took care of other people and let herself be used by men. Grandpa’s theme could be alcoholism and smoking. Your mother’s theme also is self-sacrifice and being unable to love oneself or her children. Her burden is so heavy she is unable to function properly. She also has a drinking problem and can’t love her own body. Dad was the black sheep of his family because he had a highly developed consciousness and was the most spiritual. Mother also was the black sheep and was as much rejected in her family as your dad was in his.
You, as a child of your parents, have the DNA karma of self-sacrifice, of giving yourself away and of being unable to love yourself. You may carry the family karma of addiction from both sides of the family. All this you carry with you in your blueprint.
Traits of you being the carrier of family karma:
– You are the most spiritually developed person and the most conscious one amongst your parents and siblings.
– Addictions, ilnesses and family patterns stemming from your parents are also part of you.
– From when you were young you’ve always felt different from your family; you’ve felt a grave distance to who they are and how they behave.
– Sometimes you inexplicably fall ill and have the feeling you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
– You participate in many workshops and healing to grow spiritually and to clear various energy blockages. You do this more than other family members. Unconsciously, you do this because you ‘know’ you are the carrier of the family karma. You are the transformer and the pivot for many people (and ancestors).
– You have been entangled in bizarre family matters more than once, in which you have looked at their behaviour and listened to their mutterings in amazement and you’ve come to the conclusion their views are unmindful. You’ve been challenged, criticized, stepped on your heart and completely misunderstood by them. You take family matters to heart and their darkest sides are thrown on your shoulders for you to recognize them energetically and heal them.
– If you choose to go into past life regression, you’ll find many lives with your current family members. You’ll see you’ve been involved for many lifetimes, and you’ll find yourself being the transformer in many lifetimes.
– You have an inkling that, whatever is done to you, how alone and misunderstood you might feel; you have to stay firmly rooted in love, authenticity and honesty. Now matter how grave the situation, you try to show the way to love and towards balance, light, reliability and honesty.
– You recognize family patterns in your parents and ancestors and you can take these patterns on yourself. The reason you take them on is your spiritual growth; you understand them and transform them.
Letting go of your ‘ birth family’- The ancestral Tree of Life
How to cut all the energetic cords? How do I give them back, what I carry for them?
They may not resonate with the part of you that is “different” and at odds with their outlook on life. Releasing the ties to the parental energy means first and foremost to release the energy from your own mind and emotions. It is about looking within and finding out to what extent you implicitly live by your parents’ set of illusions, by their do’s and don’ts which were based on fear and judgment.
Once you are clear about this and you allow yourself to let that go, you will be free to forgive them and really “leave the parental house.” It is only after you sever the cords on the inner level and take responsibility for your own life that you can really let your parents be. You will have clearly said “no” to their fears and illusions (sword of discernment), but at the same time you will see that your parents are not identical with their fears and illusions. They also are cosmic travellers simply trying to fulfill their soul mission. Once you feel this, you can feel their innocence and you can forgive. They did their best, to love you, in a way that they could. If you can feel in your heart they just coul not Do better, from their perspective and their human state of being, forgive.
The unseen cords with other people and family. They can even be on every chakra with hundreds of other people.
In a sense you have been the victim of your parents – your parents as they represented ego based consciousness in your childhood. You have temporarily and partly lived according to their illusions. In a way you had no choice, as their child. However to transcend your sense of being the victim here is one of the most powerful breakthroughs you can have in your life.
How can you transform family patterns?
With spiritual and affirmation sessions in which you look at the family karma, past lives and the themes you can take away from this. You shall take a look at your DNA blueprint and the burden you have to carry which is not solely yours. After seeing the patterns (dark and light) you have in your character because of the parents, you can let this go by ‘ intentions’ and by affirmations, and just radically change your behaviour. On a spiritual level it needs a strong healer and a healer who just knows how karma and DNA carriers, maybe even ‘ cults’ or ‘ nasty dark curses’- To remove these energetic ties and also the accompanying energetic blockages. You’ll see and feel why you are the carrier, how you can transform and what you can take away from this. As a carrier you can experience all kinds of ailments: pain around the uterus, back problems, pain around the tailbone, aching shoulders or even a Burn-out or ME (some karma is so heavy it drains you energetically and leaves you exhausted).
It takes time. It starts with the choice: ‘ I want to be my own master, my own energy my own soul, my own karma-carrier and I create my own family with friends (or maybe even angels, guides, or light beings). I am My own carrier, and i want to give back all that I carry to my brothers- sisters, parents and all generations after this. Please remove the cords, and all attachments’.
After this, you can do a step by step ritual- Just one step at the time, to become your Own self. In a power that is your true Potential.
You are Powerful!
Unpack yourself- Free Yourself- Make the jump!
About the Author: Leda is writer, speaker, journalist, singer, and Coach of the New Energy. She specializes in Add/HSP, twinsoul- and soulmate relationships, Karma cleansing, Regression-therapy, Personalized Meditations, Advisor, New Science, Anti-Aging programmes, sustainability, how to live in a healthy home, heart-activations and healing with new energetic tools. She is entrepeneur to guide towards a new global shift. She is a writer in the New energy:
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