by Deane Thomas,
Contributing Author, Conscious Reminder
Note: The reason for this article is to offer a human perspective, and one based on personal experience, something that science does not tend to want to hear!
Throughout our lives, we are shown or told how we shall live and contribute to society. How we shall act, be and interact with others, as well as so many definitions and opinions from our peers. Having observed and lived in a unique way, I have gathered a great deal of insight to the topic of abandonment. In order to gain further knowledge and wisdom, we learn from our life experiences, which no amount of education can prepare us for.
Looking backward at all life’s amazing encounters, there is a clear issue in today’s society and one that is focused on material needs and wants. Focusing on demands is the norm for the way in which we are supposed to live. In essence, these are demands placed not only on ourselves but also expectations of others towards us. In other words, the focus is always on things outside of us and our own natural basic requirements, which in effect causes an imbalance.
Our relationships with others are crucial to our life lessons and learnings, and there eventually comes a point when these are tested. Because we are born into an illusion that is based on others perceptions, it is inherent that we will adopt this same conditioning. We often read about lifting the veils of illusion, but the use of the word illusion is misconstrued. The reality of each of our lives is distorted in some way, it has to be until we recognise the illusion of our own life.
Psychology plays an important foundation for our lives, and this all begins from a young age, even before we are born. A fetus is very much alive; feeling in so many ways as it grows to form a living being. Whatever the mother is going through will be transferred in some way to the unborn child. Whilst science may disagree with this view for whatever reasons, it seems a logical view to take, as a starting point.
So, from a very early age, everything we feel is stored deep in our consciousness so that it may serve us later in life. Most of us know how stressful it is when a new child is created, let alone the events that happen after the birth. This perhaps explains why so few have little or no memory of their early months, days or even years. It has been stored deeply in a safe place, waiting to come to the surface, when necessary.
Love Is All Creation
A child is predominantly created when two individuals are in a loving relationship, therefore the basis of the creation is love. Taking this as a foundation, the essence is transferred to the masculine and feminine elements. As the fusion takes place between the egg and sperm, the love essence shall begin to grow, to form the embryo. Love continues to grow within the fetus and the cycle continues, for nine months. Voila, a child is born in love, which is innocent and pure, it is at this moment we begin to „brand“ the child, with a name, nationality, and religion.
The beginning of our lives, therefore, is immediately labeled. In essence, we are not born totally free, which is our birthright, we become inadvertently part of societies self-created illusion. We are born into an illusion, that is based on our parents, their parents, and generations before us. This is how it shall be according to society, and how it has always been – but we know instinctively that this is not true. It can not be true, as things such as birth certificates, identity documents, and passports, are all modern day creations of man.
Land borders have been created through battles, disputes, and far more devastating acts of violence and war. But what has driven this tremendous travesty? Man’s quest for control or greed? Where did the spirit of community disappear? The reality of modern day man seems to be all based on fear, which in so many ways ensures that love is suppressed. It is this illusion many are realising now, and it has taken tremendous pain and suffering for us to achieve this.
Abandonment is a common cause for relationships to buckle and strain, or to completely break down. It is this aspect that has perhaps we don’t fully understand, as we search for reasons for our suffering. It all stems back to the expectations placed by others, as well as the demands we place on our self. Based on what we have been shown or taught by our peers, the focus is on being able to produce something of monetary value. This is essentially the be all and end all of our purpose on this planet according to society.
As we see the demand, which is a low vibrational energy, can only have one possible effect; more low vibrations. This is far more apparent especially when someone has had traumatic encounters throughout their life. I believe in a lot of cases, this can even stem back to the fetus growing in the womb, especially if the mother also encountered stress or trauma. Transfer of trauma is a common issue prevalent throughout the world today, and much more effort is necessary to understand it.
Quest To Satisfy Society – Leads To Abandonment
Fully equipped with all the illusions, templates and societies expectations we enter into relationships full of love and openness. The desire to share our lives with someone that stimulates us in a combination of ways. Our experiences and psyche guide us, but there comes a point when these relationships can become toxic. On our quest to meet all the requirements of society, ticking the boxes on the way, many find themselves in the scenario the relationship begins to crumble.
We rely on what we have learned or remember to address the issues, but these are all based on a templating or expectation that is an illusion. The relationship breaks down, as communication between the two is fraught with differing views of how it should be. Yet, we are doing everything expected of us. We are working hard, too hard, to create an income, to provide for our family, and children. We pay our bills and taxes as well as everything else „expected“, but yet the relationship breaks.
So, at this time we can take a closer look at what the hell happened, and where did it come from. We shall look at our own actions, not those of the other person. If we analyze what the other person may or may not have been thinking or doing, we again focus on something outside of our self. There is no need to speculate on others, it is time for the microscope of self. I know, I have done this, and it simply is a waste of energy that just continues in a never-ending circle.
On my own quest to meet my own relationship requirements, despite ticking all the boxes, (being an amazing father, an incredible lover and great visionary) I had followed an illusion that I had created from a very young age. Yes, it was my illusion, but that is not to say what was created is an illusion. The intentions of being a father, lover, husband, provider, caregiver etc were always on a genuine desire and higher goal, to be the best I could be. The more I took responsibility for, the harder I had to work – the bigger the dream required the income to match. I had lost touch with my true calling and soul essence and focused on the perceived need to provide.
What I have come to realise is that effectively I abandoned my partner and son, as well as myself. I made conscious decisions that placed the relationship in jeopardy, putting others before myself and them. I was chasing a dream of earning the financial abundance, so that we may one day realise the dream of creating a loving home in the countryside. The intention was genuine, but the devil is always in the detail. Chasing wealth also brought tremendous anxieties and stresses on me personally, which of course transferred to the relationship. Communication was necessary, but the actions and words did not solve the situation. It leads to a fundamental collapse to the illusion I had created, much the same as it will to most of us! I abandoned those that I love, as well as my own soul on a quest to creating financial abundance.
No Regrets Only Life Lessons
We can not regret what has happened in our lives, we can embrace everything and merge it together so we can create something new. Recognising all that we have done, acknowledging it and being at peace with it is crucial. There can be no anger or blame. Shit happens as they say! We can only learn and allow all that we have done to be the university of life. These real lessons of life can only be good, no matter what we go through. Going to the deepest places of ourselves, allows us to truly appreciate what we have accomplished.
In conclusion, to be truly free, we shall follow our own heart and soul, as well as communicate in a deep and meaningful way. Community begins with our true authentic self and just grows from there. Viewing everything from a higher perspective, and our own highest good, can only lead to incredible things. Yes, for the majority, it takes a massive life-changing event to trigger this, yet so few take the time to get to really break the illusion, because of the aforementioned expectations.
We each have the power to break the cycles of our own creation and be the love we have always been. Shattering all expectations to just being in the moment is a transformation, and is one that will continue for the remainder of our earthly life. Knowing that our core is love, allows us to simply be love. A deeper connection with our core, and with others, leads to an amazing transformation of all that within our microcosmos.
There are many unexplained connections still present that will remain that way. We as a species do not need all the answers to live our lives because we are the answer. Nothing outside of us is responsible for our life journey, it is and always has been in our hands. We co-create where we are going, and with whom. Some are privileged to have encountered the One who has shaken us to our core; that essence will never leave us. Unconditional love has been reignited deep within, and we can finally appreciate it.
We will carry this essence with a new quest that is far more precious and rewarding than our previous ones. We now share with one and all, true unconditional love. This is our only mission, whatever is necessary for us to do this will be provided for on our journey. No longer do we need to chase a dream. We shall trust in what we feel inside and follow with an open heart, and all will be well.
Time to live in our truth!
About the author: Deane has created unique personal development programs for those who are awakening and wish to make a smooth transition to the new levels of consciousness. He has a passion and in-depth understanding of past life memory, its interpretation and how to address this in current life. To understand who we are today, we need to get to grips of who we have been – through unraveling the truth within, we can create a new template for the way we live our lives – in truth! He offers one-on-one consultations for those that require some clarity or guidance. You can discover more about this service via his website http://askdeano.com/make-an-appointment-2
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