The entire Soulmate concept has been misinterpreted to a point where people started believing that we need to go out in the streets and literally start looking for the one person who would magically make all our problems go away.
However, you need to realize that there is nothing wrong with you and stop looking at yourself as a damaged good. You don’t need fixing; as a matter of fact no one does. It’s completely wrong to think that our Soulmates have been placed on our path for that purpose.
The thing is, every time we look for the perfect one, we are actually looking for ourselves. People are our mirrors and we look for those peculiar things that resemble us.
But this is not how love works.
It’s a lot of pressure to put on a person when you expect them to heal your every wound, resolve all your past issues and sew together the torn fabric that your life is.
As a matter of fact, you two are probably feeling and expecting from each other the same things; if you are expecting them to fix you, they will want you to do the same thing for them. Have you ever been called the “fixer” in a relationship before? Have you ever felt the urge to actually fix someone other than yourself?