Many people believe that there are just two unquestionable truths related to life: it is not going to be easy, and it is not going to last forever.
Maybe the deepest realization that human beings may make to navigate through their lives successfully is simple: They don’t have all of the answers. Well, that is simply okay.
People need to understand that as these lives continue testing them, their foundations, and their composition, their source of perseverance will not come from pretending to have the ability to weather lives coolly but from understanding that others have the ability to guide them through their storms. Although life is something beautiful, it may also be hard.
Here are the five essential steps we cannot skip when we hope to heal ourselves:
We should acknowledge that we are hurt.
In fact, the vulnerability can be scary. This world may be a cruel place for those who haven’t developed the abilities to shield themselves from all its assaults, so the idea of disarming their minds and hearts seems counterintuitive.
We are living in societies that make us suffer secretly and then be sincere with the expressions and even transparent with the realities.
To heal ourselves, we have to break the walls that imprison our minds and hearts and that make us vulnerable. When we don’t acknowledge that we are vulnerable and hurt, we are never going to take the primary steps toward healing.
We should forgive.
First of all, we should forgive ourselves. We should forgive ourselves for every single thing that we were taught we have to be mad at ourselves for, such as not being brave or strong enough to keep the pain hidden and for feeling like we are dependent on other people to uplift us in the dark moments.
All these sentiments are actually a natural reaction to trauma. Some feelings of hopelessness, weakness, loneliness, and sadness are signs that everything we experienced is real and also merits our undivided attention. There is no human being that is immune to such emotions. We should forgive ourselves for feeling those emotions. Then, we should forgive everything and anything that hurt us.
When we hold onto the things that are holding us back, we will never have the ability to move forward. We can find purpose and strength even in the darkest experiences.
We should love and also be loved.
Love is definitely the most potent force in our Universe. It is constructive, but also destructive, beautiful, but also frightening, serene, but also overwhelming. When we are hurt, we have to learn how to love ourselves. Loving ourselves is quite a hard process, as what everything looks like will be individual to us.
The fundamental steps we have to take towards creating our process of self-love are universal: we should reshape our habits, take better care of our mental health and physical body, and isolate ourselves from negative energies.
We should create habits that look like every single thing we love. We should love our mind and body by treating them well. We should not permit energies that detract us from our peace. And, we should permit other people to love us. We should permit them to shower us with love—permit them to shower us with kind acts and words.
We should have faith.
We have to believe that the storm from right now is going to pass and our Universe is going to guide us through the process. We have to believe that when it finishes, we are going to be whole, happier, and stronger once again.
Every moment is fleeting, and every emotion is transient, so while we journey, we are going to see ourselves getting out of our dark space. We should believe that we are going to heal.
We should also look profoundly into our heart and even explore the relationship we have with our Universe and our existence on it. We might be quite surprised at everything that we are going to find.
We should spend time alone.
Maybe the most difficult part of the process of healing would be realizing that we have to walk this path alone. Regardless of the needed love and support throughout the process of healing, we have to guide ourselves on this journey alone.
Others may always tell us their healing version, but only we can decide for ourselves. Our experiences and traumas are only ours, and there is not a person that will truly understand all those depths to which they affect us.
Despite being our own leader, we have to give ourselves space and time to spend time alone without other people’s interference, regardless of the fact that they have good intentions.
When we let others enter into our healing space, we become mindful of theirpresence, and everything associated withthem— their feelings, emotions, desires, thoughts, and needs.
We should not forget to prioritize ourselves above everyone else while we heal. This will not mean that we are selfish.
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