People often find it difficult to let go of an impossible love. We call this love impossible because it fails to transform into a genuine and stable relationship. This type of love is the one that creates the deepest mourning, and sometimes it will also be the hardest one to forget.
So, as we already mentioned, this type of love is actually not that easy to forget. This love, not worn or lived until the crucial moment, will leave deep marks. However, although you may not forget every single thing, you may process such feelings and set them aside in order to keep going.
Here are the seven tips that will help you achieve that goal:
1. Define why this love is an impossible one.
The distinction between a conflicted or challenging love and an impossible one is significant. The impossible love cannot exist. One typical case that involves the biggest emotional struggles is that of a person who loves someone but does not receive love in return. It can be more precise to say that an individual loves and needs someone, but that someone doesn’t feel the same way. There are always two people in true love.
2. Explore your love fantasies.
There is a possibility that the struggle to renounce an impossible love often stems from fantasies that settle in different cultures. These fantasies can include concepts like “love of life” or “half orange.” The idea that comes to your mind about having just one person destined to be your partner will come from those imaginaries.
3. Recognize all negative aspects related to that relationship.
Passion, not love, is what quickly leads you to idealize situations and people. Sometimes, you will imagine attributes and virtues that your partner does not have or that he or she possesses in a small measure. In order to dilute such mental images and constructions, it is important to explore the harmful elements of the interactions your partner has with you. Discovering certain things about them will definitely make your perspective more realistic.
4. Accept that it will be time to forget that love, finally.
This is probably the most challenging step. Research indicates that when an individual aspires to be in a romantic relationship with someone, but it’s unattainable, they may experience reactions akin to those experienced by an addict during their withdrawal phase. Sometimes, emotional or physical discomfort may be hard to tolerate. Also, the hardest thing to accept during this period will be the existence of dependence, which generates deep suffering or makes one feel without power.
5. Delete memories and links.
When you realize that it will be the right time to put that impossible love aside, what you should do next is cut all those bonds that can still remind you of that love. This essentially entails refraining from calling the person, attempting new dates, distancing yourself from their friends, and doing everything within your power to prevent communication with them. You will also need to erase all your memories, including photos and gifts.
6. Make changes in the routine or try new things.
After deleting links and memories, it will be time to begin the new stage. An impossible love probably occupies a great deal of your time, so it is not going to be easy to let go. However, if you prepare yourself for the change, things will become straightforward and simple. When the moment to say goodbye arrives, the period of starting new activities and visiting a new place will also begin.
7. Give yourself more time.
Many love stories or affairs can leave profound marks that do not naturally fade, allowing for the emergence of new possibilities. Almost always, an impossible love endures longer and defies forgetting. In different cases, love is something you cannot get rid of for a day or two. It requires courage, character, and decision. It is also costly, involving some small relapses; however, time will help you release and forget it.
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